If you'll permit me to do an extension of yesterday's Rise & Fall post... that anyone within an organization is exposed to the possibility and opportunity for exhaustion and burnout. That's the nature of continuous effort and work that is not brought into balance with rest and reprieve.

An interesting observation about rising and falling; they both of their edges. We often don't think of the edges involved in the rise nearly as much, for we are focused on the pursuit that's in front of us. We understand the risks and the dangers along the way, but it's the reward that lays ahead that usually helps (at least a little bit) in terms of balance, because we know their is a process involved in the pursuit.

Fall-outs usually have very little control. The outcome of where you could land is relatively unknown, except for the worst case scenario of "rock bottom".

We talked briefly about the importance of wise and discerning friends in this process; for so often in times of burnout, one may not recognize their exact location relative to the edge. They may have a sense they are getting close; occasionally there may be a clue dropped along the way that causes wonder to wonder if a person is in trouble. But it takes a special kind of friend to speak up and speak the truth with love.

Do you realize where you are?

Edges are danger places to begin with; finding yourself in close proximity while also being distracted, frustrated or in a seemingly sense of fog just makes the potential for disaster that much more of a reality. Being brought to this awareness should also prompt change and first and foremost, a desperate desire for God to work the miraculous... perhaps beyond what you thought you may have known was already needed.

So on that note, can we pray this #associatePastorTuesday for the miraculous? Pray for pastors in need of a friend that will speak truth and life to the dark places; for those living closer to the edge than they realize... may God intervene and bring them back from the brinks of unknown disasters. Pray God would raise up friends and people within the church that would not only have a wise and discerning spirit, but that would have the boldness to speak into the lives of leadership, not from a sideline perspective, but from a place of love and relationship. May God bring clarity to places of frustration and fog; and that even in times of great distress and difficulty, that such times would be one more element of the testimony of the grace and glory of God.

As He continues to use ALL things together for good.
For those who love God and are called according to His purpose.
As even the struggles and trials of life
Are not beyond His reach;
Nor are they beyond His ability to work the miraculous.
For the advancement of the cause of Christ.

- PNC

I know that what I'm about to share doesn't exist at every church, and perhaps, because of community dynamics and make-up it's not possible, but I still think it's something to pray for and a necessary component within the church to pray regarding.

For myself, we are part of what Pastor likes to call a cross-generational church. This is reflected in two ways, primarily (at least from my vantage point). The first in congregational. There's a very healthy number of "seasoned saints", long-time believers who have been active in the church for many years. We've been been blessed to have a growing kids ministry and youth group for the past number  of years. And there is a healthy mix of everyone in between, young marrieds, families of all sizes and ages. Meanwhile, our current pastoral staff sits at a 60/40 split. 60% nearly fresh out of college, the other 40%, long seasons of ministry, but with young families.

What it creates from a staff standpoint, are what I can only imagine are incredible times of mentoring throughout the week, behind the scenes. New approaches to ministry as the younger pastors bring a relational understanding of the upcoming generation of the church in collaboration with pastors who have long-standing time and experience in ministry and church leadership; who are bring not only a "what works and what doesn't" element, but instilling a functional foundation of principles that will help build strong and more effective churches.

As we've prayed for associates before, knowing where to go, what ministries to be lead and oversee and interacting with church leadership can be difficult. Certainly, each ministry brings it's own set of challenges to the picture, combined with life experience and life as it continues outside the four walls of the church. Thus, while this is a cool dynamic to have and to watch, I realized it takes a balanced approach and healthy people. You understand by health, I'm talking spiritually, emotionally and psychologically. For pastors who aren't strong spiritually, healthy in the emotions or thinking that is out-of-line, this dynamic not only won't work, but can and will cause major problems. Which, I think we can all agree, the church needs less of, rather than more.

Thus, let us pray once again, for #associatePastorTuesday. Pray pastoral teams where relations are perhaps tense and strained, behind the scenes. While it may not be know to the congregation, may God work the miraculous where ministry and leadership are not functioning as they should. Pray for wisdom and understanding during this time, that healing and resolution will enter these situations. Pray for increased opportunities for mentorship, between established pastors and those that are just stepping on to the scene. May there truly exist a collaboration effect as they come together, to apply lessons, experiences and understanding to bring a stronger, more effective ministry to the communities and culture they serve.

That nothing would stand in the way
Of the advancement of the cause of Christ.
God help us to step out of the way,
As you work through those who step up to serve
As they have been called according to your purpose
For the kingdom and glory of God.

- PNC

Yesterday's "verse of the day", courtesy of YouVersion Bible app, was Matthew 20:28.

"Even as the Son of man came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to give his life as a ransom for many."

First, it's incredible, what Christ accomplished on the Cross, as we fast approached the weekend that we celebrate His death and resurrection. There are many challenges for which, people will rise to the occasion and many more, which people will react, "not on your life", for they know it is simply an impossible task to take on with all that is within them. Yet Jesus stepped on to the world stage knowing that only He could do the impossible for humanity.

Secondly, as you know, the more I write these posts, the more things trigger the pastoral perspective. This verse was no different, for immediately I considered the times we read about Jesus stepping away. He had his times where He avoided the cross. We see Him moving away from the disciples to spend time in prayer. We see Him spend time in fellowship for no other purpose than fellowship. We see Him draw close to His inner circle; the few selected disciples who He hung out with the most.

Though His intent was not to receive ministry, I believe He understand He needed times of refreshing and rejuvenation. He understood the hardship and difficulty of ministry; for even though it formally lasted only a short three years, we see His struggle. We see the angels minister to Him after He was tempted of the devil. You can almost hear His conversation with God in the final days regarding the Cross.

"If there is any other way, Dad; please..."

Is it entirely possible that the human element of Jesus Christ was, at times, on the verge of burnout?
Certainly, He had moments of frustration in ministry, even with His disciples.  "You couldn't stay awake and pray for even an hour?"

Needless to say, who knows what situation or circumstance will move a pastor one step closer to burnout. While they too, seek primarily to minister rather than receive it; if Christ understand the delicate balance of battling burnout, certainly pastors (of all positions) need take time to be refreshed and rejuvenated; both by the angels of God and the people of God and receive ministry for themselves.

Let us pray, this #associatePastorTuesday, for pastors struggling to find the balance in the battle of burnout. For those that are literally just steps away from burnout, pray God would strengthen their hearts and minds, even this very hour. For whatever concerns and burdens that are weighing them done, may they lay them at Jesus' feet, exchanging them for His light load. May God surround them with people and friends who will speak life into their circumstance and help bring comfort and wisdom to the matters on their mind. May the enemy not get the upper hand in his attempt to discourage, detour and derail their life, home and ministry. Pray a hedge of protection; that God would keep His hand upon them and revive them.

Stronger today than ever before
To continue to the work to which they've been called.
That all might hear and know
The goodness and grace of God
For the cause of Jesus Christ.

- PNC

Aren't numbers incredible?

We track and count, worry and celebrate just about everything.

Miles traveled. Jobs held. Anniversaries and birthdays survived (just kidding)
Some get caught up in the relationships of the past; others in how many cars they've owned.
Yet, some take literally, how often Jesus instructs us to extend forgiveness.
And very few rejoice over the book of Numbers in Scripture.
Do I need to mention bank accounts, wealth versus indebtedness and net worth outlooks?

Meanwhile, it's all somewhat relative, isn't?

I thought about this yesterday... when you read this, today is post number 674 since the re-launch of this site. It blows my mind. By comparison, the nation of Israel wandered the desert for 40 years. Or by our calendar, 14,600 days!

Church has it's own concerns.
Sure, financial picture makes the list. As do salvations and growth. Outreach impact and ministry opportunities. Square footage and longevity of ministry. Giving records.

Yet, God simply calls us to be faithful. To press on and continue to do the work He has called us to accomplish. Yes, numbers have their place, just as the book does in Scripture. But it shouldn't dominate, perhaps as much as it does in our lives.

So, pray, this #associatePastorTuesday, for those concerned over numbers. Whatever the topic or area of focus, may they be reminded, that in the end it's all God's and it is all up to God. May they continue to focus their efforts on what He has called them to accomplish, fulfilling their purpose and destiny. Pray a desire and a resolve to remain faithful to the work of the Lord; that stress and burnout and frustration would not rise to the level of destruction. May the peace of God that surpasses all understanding propel them forward, to greater levels of ministry and impact for the cause of Jesus Christ.

For what is their to track,
If we are not out doing, in the first place.
May we be counted faithful first.
For the glory of God.

- PNC

We all seek to have people in our lives who are understanding. And yet the adage is true; it is harder to seek to understand before being understood. We all want to go first; rarely do we desire to go second.

Understanding is an interesting concept. Things may not necessarily make sense, but understanding implies that when something is explained, we can see how certain conclusions or places of decisions were arrived... even if we haven't experienced it first hand.

Depending on your role in life, sometimes understanding is easier to come by than others. For as a famous comedian once said regarding parenting; we aren't interested in justice. We want quiet!

I think though, the some of the most powerful places of understanding take place in marriage. While you are two people, with your own interests and friends and responsibilities, you are, at the same time, living a single life of togetherness. Conflict and tension is inevitable as there is a process of two things being made into a single unit.

Perhaps more than any other person in the world, people desire to be understood by their spouse. And at times, the desire to understand first, is greater than one's own desire to be understood.

This has always been my concern, when I've thought about the life of ministry. The demands and responsibilities of life are great on their own and we don't always understand the decisions our spouses make. (pick any topic here that fits)

Yet when ministry demands are added to the mix, there's a whole other element of priorities and responsibilities that are added to the equation If a marriage doesn't already have a solid foundation of communication skills when it comes to matters of understanding, then ministry has the incredible opportunity to become a source of tension and frustration than one of blessing, love and compassion. For one will go give of themselves for the cause of Christ while the other stands tempted to despise the cause for the problems it creates.

All marriages have rough places. Ministry is no different.
Romantic relationships aren't always as beautifully written as the Hallmark channel.

(which as wonderful as they are, is probably for the best)

If marriage is to function as a team and present as a united front, how much more for marriages in ministry, as they work to advance the cause of Christ together?

So, let's pray together, this #associatePastorTuesday, for pastors whose marriages are in trouble; perhaps weighed down from the very responsibilities and demands of ministry. May God quicken their hearts and minds and strengthen their resolve; to remain committed and work out their differences. Pray the Holy Spirit continue to move and work within us; that the desire to understand those around us, especially spouses, would be greater than our own desire to be understood. Pray that peace, love and compassion would start at home... even when the kids aren't quiet and the desire for justice among them is lost. May the impact of ministry not be hindered by our own flesh standing in the way... though the situations and priorities are important, may God help those who are having difficulty finding balance; in their marriage and their ministry and whatever may get caught and suspended in the overlap. Pray the grace of God would cover it all.

For He knows where we are.
And He knows what He has called us to do.
He works in the lives of those around us
As much as He does our own.
So we pray and trust Him to accomplish the miraculous;
Starting with our own self.
For His glory and the cause of Christ.

- PNC

I woke up this morning and realized in between snooze-button hits, that I could just as easily written this post for Thursday, when we pray for church staff and administrators. While it's possible it may be well-suited and quite applicable, I think it denies the truth that even pastors make mistakes in their job responsibilities which need to be dealt with, just as the rest of us encounter.

Regardless of which side of the desk you sit on, disciplinary action is never a pleasant experience. It doesn't matter if it is a stern warning or correction or a formal ding for the record books. It is quite a simply, a disconcerting event; emotionally frustrating and mentally taxing... in a word, stressful.

We know the ones you hear about usually don't end well... and that's fine. Most people don't hear about the bumps and bruises of the everyday "bad days" at work, when this and that problem arise and someone bears the burden. But are these conversations just as difficult and challenging as the everyday office desk or job-site? Probably.

Perhaps even more-so, as both parties have an understanding of grace and compassion; patience and discernment... looking at the matter through the eyes of faith and perspective of stewardship. It's not that the secular boss doesn't possess these traits, but if they aren't a Christian, the conversation could and probably does look and sound very different from what we might assume goes on between a senior and associate pastor, or the like.

Needless to say, having been on the receiving end of this conversation in the secular marketplace before, I have a slight understanding of how much more discernment it must take to have to deal with similar matters when it comes to ministry. To that end, we should pray (as I hit the snooze button one too many times).

So, let's pray this #associatePastorTuesday, that indeed, God would grant wisdom and discernment, for the times of difficulty when job and ministry responsibilities need to be discussed and corrected. Pray for a spirit of understanding, of grace and compassion. May there not be a fear to have the hard conversation and the difficult decision; but to confront problems in light of the truth and with a spirit of love. May God help each of us, as we work as unto the Lord and not just ministry-related things that are God's work. Pray a greater understanding of the stewardship of our talents and gifting as we approach our work and their responsibilities; that even in this, we would reflect and point others to Christ.

That whatsoever your hands find to do,
Do so as unto the Lord.
For we are His workmanship.
Clay in the Potter's hands.
For the glory of God.
And the cause of Jesus Christ.

- PNC

It is good that iron sharpens iron. It is a direct relationship; a true 1:1 comparison. Inspired from a devotional I read yesterday, it got me thinking... of course, about ministry.

We often hear of "big picture" conferences and gatherings designed for a defined group, but I couldn't help but wonder, if there aren't times where they should be more specific. Case in point, it's great for pastors to get together and encourage one another and learn from each other, but as we break up the week and pray for specific positions within the church, is it not wise for worship pastors to meet, share and learn from other worship pastors? Associate pastors have issues and challenges that differ from senior/lead pastors. Likewise children's and youth pastors have an entirely different perspective, regarding their target audience of ministry.

I'm not saying there's not overlap, that these pastors can't learn from others who hold different responsibilities elsewhere in ministry; but at the same time, a dad struggling with his teenager is more likely to seek help from another dad with a teen than one with a toddler. A specific iron needs to be sharpened. A specific iron is required.

The same is true for business. It's a great opportunity for managers and CEO's to learn from each other and those times are necessary and appropriate. But you'd have to agree, the conversation looks entirely different if the room were exclusively CEO's or exclusively a group of specific managers, like sales or HR.

On this #associatePastorTuesday, can we pray, that opportunities for connections  would be opened? Pray that conversations and discussions would take place, whereby pastors would be sharpened, both in their ministry life and their personal life. May relationships be formed, that would give way to mentoring, encouragement and wisdom, as specific ministries are able to speak into similar ministries. Pray the challenges and difficulties they face would be opportunities for life to be spoken; that health and wholeness would result. Pray that any spirit of loneliness, abandonment or fatigue would be laid at the cross, as hearts and minds are renewed and strengthened, by the sharpening of iron.

A spirit of unity
And solidarity of purpose
For those advancing the work of the God's kingdom
Through the office of "pastor"
For the glory of God.

- PNC

Life can truly be difficult at time, can't it? Sure for obvious reasons, every one would agree. You look at situations and circumstances, and no matter who you are, you would look and say, "Wow."

For the rest of the time though, I think we make life difficult through the simple act of comparison. I'm the worst at this... and have been for as long as I can remember, sadly.

It an increasingly competitive time and the massive advances in technology and lifestyle, it's hard not to look at other people's journeys and wish you were in a different place or that your journey wasn't what it was. Not just in every day life, but also in matters of faith. We can wish we were more spiritually mature, more involved and engaged in the church or ministry... more (insert your spiritual battle here)

We make these comparisons from the pew. Pastors make them from the pulpit.

Followers look to their leaders more than Who is leading the leader.
Leaders can fall trap to focusing more than their following (particularly, the size of it) and forget who they are following.

Mentors are awesome and I'm a firm believer in everyone having someone "farther along" in their journey of life and faith speaking into someone else. But at the end of the day, I keep coming back to the encouragement of Paul.

"Follow me, as I follow Christ."

This is not a blind following. We should be close enough to recognize when the one person we follow is amiss in how they follow Christ. If don't fall prey to the trap of comparison and each, focus on our own relationship with Christ, rather than others and where they (or we) may or may not be in that walk, much of life would simplify itself.

Would you join me, as we pray this #associatePastorTuesday. Pray for wisdom; that pastors would know where, when and with whom they serve in ministry together. May they not fall trap to comparison living, but grow and strengthen their faith as they keep their eyes on God. Pray destruction and disaster would be avoided; that pastors would not get caught up in the following, nor would the followers be led astray. May the people of God resist the temptation to live a comparison life to others and focus on what God is doing in our life as we stand in light of Christ.

For we are not conformed to the image of our neighbor,
But the image of our Savior.
That God would be glorified among us
As we live for Him alone.
For He alone is God.

- PNC

I Corinthians 15 is a pretty cool chapter, but as I considered what God had in store for this post, I couldn't shake the encouragement that verse 58 offers.

"Therefore, my beloved brethren, be steadfast, unmovable; always abounding in the work of the Lord, forasmuch as you know that your labor is not in vain in the Lord."

In the preceding verses, if I can boil it down, Paul essentially says that what Christ accomplished through His death and resurrection is possible because of who He is. If we are dead because of Adam, then we are alive because of Christ. However, without His death and resurrection, we have nothing. There is no witness, no testimony... no gospel to preach whereby man can be saved.

Paul goes on to explain many more spiritual truths, making the comparison between the physical and spiritual man before arrives to this place of encouragement, but he understands well, the power of the gospel as it transformed his life, from one known as a prosecutor of the faith to a protector of the faith.

Our victory in life is made possible the life of our Lord Jesus Christ.

The enemy would love for nothing less, than cracks in the armor of our faith; areas of weakness in our life, whereby he can distract us and use our frustrations and concerns against us to take us of course. Even to the point, that Paul witnesses in his day; that some were not preaching the full gospel (which is much of his explanation in this chapter) But whether the challenge of ministry lies in our understanding of the gospel or life has skewed our perspective of what God has and desires to accomplish in and through our lives, Paul's encouragement stands.

These are days in which pastors and parishioners alike must be steadfast; unmovable. The truth of Christ and the power of God is alive and at work in our midst and though the days may feel as such or attacked as such, the gospel of the kingdom of God, is not a vanity exercise, nor the labor with which we pursue it.

Join me, this #associatePastorTuesday; that pastors would be encouraged, to remain steadfast and unmovable. May God strengthen the weak and the weary among us; that Christ would be made alive in their body, mind, soul and spirit. Anew and afresh, may the be revitalized in their efforts to preach the Gospel and make Christ known. Pray the distractions and disruptions of life would not throw them of course; but they would continue the race, fighting the good fight of faith.

Steadfast and unmovable.
Not by the naysayers in life,
Nor the disruptions of it.
Preaching the full gospel
And the whole counsel of God.
In a world of darkness
For the cause of Jesus Christ.

- PNC

Grace truly is an amazing thing.

How in the world, we could ever expect to give it or receive it without acknowledging that it exists as a gift from Almighty God remains a mystery.

Of course, we all know life is hard and the days are rough.

We have our days where we look to receive and probably don't.
We have our days where we are asked to give it and would rather not.

Justification often stands in the way of both. Often skewed by our own perspectives, we make the most interesting arguments and reasons as to why and who is worth this gift.

In reality, none of us are worthy to receive it.
Likewise, none of us are in a position to grant it either.

Indeed grace is a gift. Having received it from God makes it that much easier to give to our fellow man. At least it should. Yet, sadly, whether within the church or outside of it,  we often hesitate to extend it. For when we do, it is simply another opportunity to reflect and exemplify our Lord and Savior. Granted we must use wisdom and discernment at times, that we may truly understand and handle the circumstances we face; but more often than not, grace should flow more often than it probably does.

It's a struggle for us all. It's a struggle for our leaders. And in the context of that relationship alone, grace is a difficult process often made more complex by the expectations created by faith.

So, pray, this #associatePastorTuesday. Whether in need of receipt or expected to grant, pray for pastors in difficult places where grace is needed. Whether at home or at church, may God grant to them wisdom and discernment as they walk through the conversation and decision process. Pray for understanding, that they would know the when, where and how to respond to the people and circumstances they face. May our first thought be to exemplify and glorify Christ, in all that we say or do; even when we are inclined to assert our rights or stand our defense.

May we extend grace
When it is undeserved,
Even as we have received grace
That we did not deserve.
That the world may see Christ
Reflected through imperfect lives.
Amazing grace, indeed.
For the cause of Jesus Christ.

- PNC

None of us know, the day nor the hour we will be called home; into eternity with Christ. (or God forbid, without Him). Or destiny is before us; our untimely departure unknown to all, but a sovereign God with a perfect plan who uses all things for His glory, even after we have left this earth.

Without fail, towards the end of the year, social media in particular, gets flooded with comments after some amazing people have left this life; people of great accomplishments, people of legendary fame; people relatively unknown, except for the small circles in which they impacted greatly the lives of those around them. "This year can end any day now" is a sentiment shared by many.

Then the New Year starts, and one wonders... really? This is how we are starting?

Last week, our church held the funeral of the most incredible lady of faith, as she finally went home, after a 4-yr battle with cancer. Her faith and steadfast trust in God was remarkable and her smile lit up the treatment ward, as she dressed for each day; like her reality didn't affect her attitude. My heart breaks for my friends, in the loss of their mother.

Then the city of Detroit, lost a man of great impact... pizza magnate and Red Wing's owner, Mike Ilitch. Fans, friends and family... the outpouring of love that has gone forth for the love and appreciate of a man who did so much for his community and beyond, as a business icon, simply can't be ignored.

Finally, in the past few days, Christian music pioneer, Larry Norman, too, passed into eternity. Another great; who left an indelible mark on those around him, not to mention the hundreds of thousands, who came to Christ through his ministry and music and even more, whose faith was encouraged by his talent and his words.

All that to say; and this isn't a projection of the demographic make up of church leadership; but loosing people of influence and those in our daily circles of involvement is never easy... whether they be family, friends or business. As I considered the Earth's loss of these people, I couldn't help but consider all the others, whose lives are being mourned, even this hour. People of influence. People of faith. People of prominence or relative obscurity. Friends. Leaders. Mentors.

As those in church leadership begin to step away from ministry due to age and health concerns, whether they are senior pastors or not, I couldn't help but wonder the value and contribution that has been gained over the years, and what will be lost when they go. For those associates and friends who will fill their places, God help them, as we pray He will for the friends of the aforementioned.

Pray, for these families, friends and congregations. May God grant them strength and comfort during this time of loss. Pray that as we reflect, it would cause us to celebrate the time we shared with them on this earth and what God accomplished in and through their lives. May their testimonies speak the truth, of the goodness and greatness of the love of Jesus Christ among us. Pray for those who remain; to tell their stories; to apply what we've learned from them and continue their legacies. May we impact our communities and our worlds, whether local or global to greater degrees than they, as we have been inspired that this world is not about us, but God. Pray we recognize our place and the plans He has for us... to do good works for the cause of Christ.

May Heaven be our home
As we  are just aliens and strangers.
Travelers here... simply passing through.
Bringing glory to God
Leading others to Christ.
For the advancement of the kingdom of God.

- PNC

My daughters misplaced the remote to their DVD player yesterday... which happens to be the same remote for my DVD player. So, the wife and I ended up falling asleep to You've Got Mail (as it automatically plays, without going to the menu first) Then this morning, as I woke up early and couldn't fall back asleep, I started it again. 

We arrive at the scene for Joe Fox arrives at the café, when he finds out he's about to meet his competition in business, Kathleen Kelly. When he finally decided to step in to the cafe, of course, Kathleen having no idea How knows his competitor is the woman he has been chatting with online, the conversation is tough. And Kathleen, the next morning, discusses the outcome. 

The unexpected.

As Joe Fox states it, when Kathleen later asks, unknowingly where he was, he says that she expected a friend to arrive and met her enemy instead.

Thus, I was reminded once again, the challenge and frustration... the breakdown that exists after the failure of a senior pastor. The environment changes, trust is broken and the conversation is disconcerting. We haven't talked about the roles reversing. Associates are just as prone to struggles and failures, placing senior pastors and church leadership in just as difficult a place.

Relationships in ministry are difficult. Oftentimes they have a greater element of friendship to them than a normal workplace environment. So when difficulty arises and the conversation gets overtly challenging, things can get shaky.

So, pray, this #associatePastorTuesday for relationships among church leaders. May difficulty not derail or destroy the friendships that exist. Pray also, that failures would not hinder the work of the ministry and the impact the church endeavors to make upon their community. Pray a grace and a wisdom over conversations... as differences are worked out and problems solved, may God be glorified and honored in how such delicate matters are handled. May their be a strengthening of their resolve; that nothing would stand in their way of fulfilling the calling and purposes that God has placed before them.

May they be found faithful servants,
Stewards of their calling.
Anointed to serve.
God. Others.
For the cause of Jesus Christ

-PNC

Blame always rises to the top of the leadership ladder, even in cases where the full truth and reasoning may not be known. In the case of a failure and or removal from the highest level, blame also quickly descends upon those who remain.

Leadership truly does require a thick skin.

It does not require perfection for nobody is.
It does not require full transparency, for we live in a time where it is more fun to highjack the truth with misleading titles and offering words that stand in the way of resolution than asking questions and working through all possible aspects in order to gain better understanding.

Not everyone is "in the room". We do not know, nor can we sometimes fully comprehend the information presented, the context and the history that factors in; as to why, how and where decisions are made and the impact that follows.

Furthermore, it doesn't help any matters that people arrive at places of criticism for some fairly far-fetched reasons, others very legit and well-founded. So the discussion is always an interesting one, provided both parties can hang in long enough to find common ground... or at least a point or place of understanding.

We've come to a place where we think everything needs to be shared, everything needs to be known and all reasoning explained. Life doesn't work like that. Relationships exist on several levels and not all can be intimate enough to be full access with nothing hidden from plain sight.

Leadership is a conviction for truth.
Leadership is a boldness to declare it.
Leadership is a compass for trust.

The first of the three can be the equivalent of an archeological dig.
The last of the three, easier to lose than to gain.
In the middle, resides the temptation to remain silent... which long term, helps nobody.

All the more reason, to pray, not just for leadership in general, but for pastors. For if we are concerned for the lives that hang in the balance as a society, how much more, our concern for lives who hang in the balance of eternity?

Thanks again, for joining me this #associatePastorTuesday, as we pray for associate pastors. Pray for a conviction for the truth. Pray a boldness to declare it and in love. Pray for wisdom in their relationships, that they would be built on trust. As we do live in a day of desired transparency, pray for wisdom and guidance, that leaders and pastors would know what to share, with whom and when; for relationships are dynamic with intricate moving pieces and salient details. May God help those who observe and criticize; may it be done so with compassion and understanding. May their be a foundation of understanding; rather than a platform that is quick to place blame and hurl insults.

May our lives glorify Christ
Even as decisions are made
While we may not understand, nor agree;
May we continue to trust... first and foremost,
The sovereign hand of God.
Not Himself removed from our presence,
But intimately involved in the affairs of man.
That His purposes might be accomplished
So all may know, He is God.

- PNC

We've witnessed quite a bit in recent days...  nothing we haven't seen before, although some would argue that it reached a new low, as to what was on display and how it was portrayed.

It has been established that we have been blessed, and given by God, inalienable rights.

And yet, quite simply the flesh fights for even more. There are many layers to the conversation, some I understand, some I don't and it's too exhaustive to explore for the nature of this blog; except to say that even in Christianity, we are often all too quick to assert our own rights.

I'm just as guilty of it as any other believer, yet the truth of the matter is, that as a follower of Jesus Christ, my rights take a back seat to what Christ desires to work in my life and what He desires to accomplish for the kingdom of God through my life.

God loves you.
He loves me.
He provides for us.
He watches over us.
He desires the best for our lives.
He asks that we bring our needs to Him

However, with that understanding in mind, we still, all to often, come to Him from a place of assertion rather than submission. I do it. You do it. Church leadership and pastors have done it. It can be especially difficult to leaders and people in authority; considerably more so when the relationship is particularly tense, stressful or difficult to navigate. Trying to understand what is going on; wandering what new development will be the one that causes a new set of problems... managing and dealing with management is a struggle for both sides of the table. Which is usually when one starts to stand in assertion and the other is left to assert in confrontation or relinquish in submission. 

This is difficult to do in a relationship with a forgiving, compassion, Sovereign God.
How much more with humanity... not so quick to forgive, prone to self-serving, finite being.

We are not our own; we have been bought with a price.
How will the world see Christ, if Christians keep standing in the way?

Pray, this #associatePastorTuesday for pastors struggling; finding themselves in places where they feel the need to assert their rights and position. Though the battle is real and the conversation difficult, may the seek that God would be glorified. May God help them to remain humble, for He opposes the proud (which usually is found at the forefront of any assertion). Pray God would grant to them insight and wisdom in dealing with difficult people, whether above them in leadership or under their ministry. May who we are in Christ not stand in the way of Christ being displayed in and through our lives.

That when people look at Christians,
They would not see a person who believes in Christ,
But Christ who desires the best for humanity.
May we be found relinquished only to Him.
That He be glorified as His sovereign plan unfolds in our lives.
For the cause of Jesus Christ.

- PNC

We all have our days where we just aren't feeling it.

There's just enough stuff going on in life that is causing frustration and angst; we don't feel like getting much done, nor going anywhere, or doing anything. Even work feels particularly dreadful.

There's a wide range of states of existence on the depression/anxiety spectrum and while it can be hard to differentiate at times if we are simply bummed, depressed or having an off day, the bottom line is that life happens to us all and any day can be a battle. Even for pastors and their spouses and families.

Yet as I thought about the Petra's song, For All Your Worth, I was reminded once again, that we are simply dust. Our worth is not in our body or the external possessions that fill our lives. Our body is the 39 cent box.

Our identity, hope and strength is found in Christ... our worth is in our soul and spirit; which transcends the time in which we have a body that breathes. From the highest head of state to the lowliest of one on the street, God values our worth as His creation and our soul for which He gave up His Son that we might have fellowship with Him.

While the struggle is real, it truly is a sad thought that we allow the temporal to so often stand in the way of the eternal importance and worth of who we are... from the pew to the pulpit.

Pray, this #associatePastorTuesday, for those pastors and church leaders struggling... with depression and anxiety; and even a sense that may yet be unknown, of who they are in Christ. May the be encouraged and strengthened by the love and grace of Almighty God. For those who have bought even a fraction of the lie of the enemy, that they are not loved and valued; pray such thoughts and temptations of thought be cast down. Pray a refreshing and renewal of the mind through the washing of the Word of God. Pray for wisdom, in conversations with family and friends and those who help them through this process and time in their lives. May their ministries not be derailed or detoured, but arise stronger and greater because of the miraculous healing of God in their hearts, minds and spirits.

Be of good cheer,
For greater is He who is in you
Than he that is in the world.
And Christ has overcome the world
Therefore, we are overcomers in Him.
For the glory of God.

- PNC​

We  have all witnessed first hand, whether in our own lives or in the lives of pastors  or other leaders around us, the difficulty that comes with major transistions and times of change. And rightly so. These can be life-changing moments; often accompanied by upheaval and unrest, even if there is an element of excitement should the change be a welcome or positive one in nature.

For all the other moments, perhaps even under the radar, less drastic changes in one's areas of responsibility can be difficult in their own right. Whether it's an expansion of one's oversight, that brings about a level of nervousness and anxiety as to whether they will do well or a reduction of the same, that perhaps brings a realization that they were spread to thin and not doing the job as well as they should... these times raise many questions and concerns. Thought-processes traverse a complex course of possibilities when the questions and concerns are internal; multiple times over if they are public.

You are feeling overwhelmed just thinking about such moments, right?

Then there are those, even in ministry, experiencing such moments.

Fortunately, God's sovereign Hand is not out of reach. He remains close; with the love, support and guidance that is more than capable to bring people through both the most drastic and least significant periods of change in their lives. Our lives and our response to life should testify; that He is "more than" we could ever hope to say.

So, pray, this #associatePastorTuesday, for pastors experiencing portfolio changes. Perhaps they are not in major times of transistion in ministry, such as changing churches or moving to missions, but even internal changes within a church can be difficult. Pray a continued strength and reliance upon the Lord; for insight and wisdom, encouragement and confidence. May these moments be times of reflection and growth; whether they include new challenges or an opportunity to regroup and rebuild. May the attacks of the enemy be kept a bay; for he is a defeated foe. May what was meant to destroy and derail pastors only serve to testify of the goodness and glory of God.

For in times of uncertainty, He is certain.
For times of instability, He is stable.
For times of unrest, He is peace.
In darkness, He is light
For we are not unknown to Him,
But intimately known by our Creator.

- PNC

I experienced an interesting insight yesterday afternoon, while we visited the local play-land so the kiddos could get out some energy and play games. We had a good time, given that we were there for a few hours and the kids cashed in their game tickets from some cool toys (like we needed more things to put away when bedtime rolls around)

Of course, what play-place experience isn't complete without a game taking your tokens, but not printing out the correct number of winning tickets?

Ministry is not about seeking the approval of man, for those who do so receive their reward... having exchanged the eternal for the temporal. 

It's easy to get caught up, even as I consider the simple things for this site. I watch twitter followers come and go or the visit count of the number of readers flucuate on any given day. Some days I smile, other days, I wonder what happened.

Even for pastors though, a similar temptation exists. Why is service attendance so strong on Sunday morning, but 80-90% gone on a Sunday night... or 60-70% gone on a Wednesday night? Why do some events bring out more support and volunteers than others? Why are some sermons more well received? Worship portions of the service more powerful one week than the last (or next). Community outreaches that generate more impact or notice than others... and if you are in ministry or a pastor reading this, you could add even more to the list.

Whether we consciously consider such situations for longer than a second or two or not, we are human.

In the efforts to do more, to be greater, to make be more effective and efficient in our impact, to be more involved, more understood... at the beginning of all it, is the process of analysis. Which if we aren't careful quickly leads to something I've more familiar with than I care to admit... over-thinking.

One more reason why it's probably a good thing I'm not in ministry, but I understand the importance of praying for those who are.

On that note... pleasse join me in prayer, this #associatePastorTuesday for pastors struggling with the temptation to overthink and over-analyize their ministry efforts and the results they produce. Pray they find and retain a balance in utilizing best practices, where possible... for improvements are necessary in the church, but not get caught up in the last trends, opportunities or strategies in their area of ministry, as  a means of "competing" with other churches. Pray they would continue to seek the face of God first, for what He would have in store for the decisions they face and the direction they are too take. May their first answer for whatever "success" they achive in ministry on this earth, be directly attributed to the sovereign Hand of God and His favor and blessing on their lives and the anointing that rest upon the as they faithfully fulfilled the calling placed upon them.

For the tokens of earth will pass away
The rewards of heaven last for eternity.
May the desire of the temporal subside
And the pursuit of God arise within us.
For all these things follow those;
Who seek the kingdom of God and His righteousness first.
For the glory of God.

​- PNC

Family relationships are work. Even in the greatest of families, with the most incredible amounts of love.

In the families where there is great struggle and tragedy, even stressful points of tension at seemingly drops of a hat, there are moments of great joy. Moments when personal issues and troubles, relatioal frustrations and differences on life and living... they are all set aside in the interest of showing care and concern for those we love, just because of the nature and foundation of the relationship.

I considered this yesterday afternoon and the power that such moments can have, when they happen.

They are disappointing when recognizing such a moment is needed
They are frustrating to wait in anticipation, as a hope is seemingly prolonged.
They are a joy to watch such moments unfold... when it finally happens.

Every time I consider the difficulties of family life, I wonder how pastors do it.

Then I remember the plethora of reasons pastors burnout out and end up leaving the ministry. They don't alsways do. Amidst the struggles and challenges of ministry are the struggles and difficulties that await when they come home. Frustrations with extended family, kids fighting over toys while it's still Christmas day and spouses upset with conversations that quickly took a turn downhill... whether the joke wasn't that funny, the sarcasm wasn't well received or the wrong answer was discovered wrong after being spoken.

Like the professional mechanic whose vehicles are the last to get worked on, or the plumber, whose wife's kitchen is the last to get fixed, so to pastors, perhaps more often than you and I both probably realize, can have difficulty  keeping their families in healthy, emotional and spiritual states of existence.

All the more reason, we pray, this #associatePastorTuesday, for pastors battling family difficulties and frustrating relational tensions, whether in their immediate or extended households. Pray God would give wisdom in handingly whatever strains may exists, in the marriage or in parenint; in siblings or with in-laws. Pray for strength and rest, where matters and circumstances have lasted seemingly longer than anticipated or expected. For the short-lived moments of tension, pray for grace... that they would be quickly dismissed where they are not important and quickly resolved for real problems, avoiding the potential to become drawn-out indefinitely. May the challenges at home not dissaude, diminish or derail the efforts of ministry and the work of the church. Though the balance is hard, may God move on their behalf in all things.

To receive the glory and honor He is due
Both at home and at church
In the community, here on earth
Before the cloud of witnesses in heaven.
Displaying Christ, no matter who stands in front of them.

- PNC

I've learned a valuable lesson this Christmas season.

Don't wait until one specific day to conduct an overwhelming majority of your Christmas shopping. The kids knew this happened over the weekend, as they went out for a few hours with Grandpa and Grandma to do some shopping of their own. All had a great time.

However, for the rest of the weekend, every couple of minutes, one question had been placed on "repeat."

"Can we open presents yet?"

Can we open presents yet?

Can we open presents yet?

Is it Christmas yet?

Then this exchange, which my wife didn't find as funny as I did.

Yes, you can open presents!
Really?
Yes, as soon as today is Christmas. Is today Christmas?
No.
Then no, you can't open presents.

Is this how we are in our faith? We get a glimpse of what God might have in store for us and rather than wait for the destined time, we push on God. Can we do this? Can we go here? How will this happen? When? Where? With you? Can we go yet?

Or worse... we don't get a clear, or even a reasonable indication, of what God might have in store, and we start searching, not knowing what we are getting into and where we might be headed; stepping into unknowns that we have no place digging.

It's a frustrating time for sure. I understand. I've been there. Multiple times. And each time has some point of stress and agony.

If this is dangerous ground for the believer, all the more for those in ministry. Impatience in personal matters can cause some serious damage. Impatience in ministry raises the potential for inevitable ruin in some form. I pray that it doesn't; but it's hard to miss how it wouldn't. Come to think of it, I watched it once. They've come out stronger for it, but it was a hard road full of difficult questions and conversations and the congregation suffered in the process.

Pray, this #associatePastorTuesday, for those struggling with the waiting and anticipation of what God has in store and the promises that await. For those who have acted on the impatience or perhaps, misunderstanding of the hand of God and are now in places of difficulty, pray God's wisdom and direction... that He would guide their steps and direct their paths, as they are rerouted back to the place God has in store for them. Pray that the spirit of defeat would not detour or derail them; may frustration not dissuade them, but may the wake up each day, confident in the hand of God to sovereignly direct them. For whatever the next steps are, may there be a peace and comfort; that God is still in control, full of grace, mercy and compassion... willing and able to redirect us back to where we need to be and focus on what is at hand.

Worry not,
Neither be anxious,
For in due time, may God place you
Exactly where He will use
To bring glory and honor to Him
In ways that are beyond your control and ability.
Wait on Him and seek His face.
For He knows what you have need of, before you ask or think.

- PNC

I mentioned yesterday, as Pastor shared the tragic news of a family situation within our congregation, that you could tell, even for a moment, he hesitated, as if at a loss for words and support.

I certainly understand the dilemna, as the scenario that played through my mind this past Friday of "what if" tragedy struck my family... how would I respond? How would my friends and family support me? The situation would grieve and affect their lives directly... how would I support them as they worked through such great loss? We would need each other, yet we would need our own space and time. 

Healing comes through community,  yes.
More importantly, healing comes through communion with God.

Upon Christ's ascension, after the resurrection, He did not promise that He would send us understanding for what we would endure. He promised to send the Comforter.

We like to think we have it all together... that we understand and know how it all plays out. And we just might; for a minute. Perhaps even a moment. But it's a solitary falling star in a galaxy beyond our comprehension, full of the majestic sovereignty of God.

I certainly don't have a clue. Yet, I know that doesn't and shouldn't prevent from being a support to those in need when I have opportunity to do so... even when I am at a loss for words, time or resources. While each struggle may be difficult, God is still able to use us to help others through their struggles, if we would take the moment we think we have it all together and invest it in helping someone else keep it together.

Pray, this #associatePastorTuesday, that the Holy Spirit would strengthen and comfort them during the difficulties and challenges they face. May they continue to be open to be used by God to support, encourage and uplift Senior Pastors and others they serve with in ministry, despite whatever may be going on directly in their own lives. Pray they would not become so downtrodden and discouraged that the miss opportunities for God to accomplish the miraculous; even if they are at a loss for words or don't seem to be the help that is needed or desired. May God honor the faith of the friends who come along side, to be ministers of grace and love, as they pray the Holy Spirit to do what He was sent to accomplish...

Comfort;
With peace that surpasses all understanding.
Trust in the Lord,
Even when life falls apart.
For God is in control, with a divine plan.
Beauty from ashes, for His Glory.

- PNC